You have to take charge of your destiny.

Shaping-Destiny Lifestyle: The strategy that all successful people use.

For years now, I have been a keen student of truly successful people. I’ve been very interested in seeing how these people transformed their lives, turned their adversity around and made something great of their lives. What I’ve seen over and over again is that each of them has what I call a shaping-destiny mindset. People with a shaping-destiny mindset believe that they are in control of their destiny and that they can shape it. When they face challenges, they are convinced that they are enough. When they fail a problem, they don’t shrink and give up. Instead, they wonder–sometimes in excitement–what the mistake was that they made and how could they correct. If it’s something they haven’t encountered before, they see an opportunity to learn it, turn back, tackle the problem and win. The have the kind of mindset that researchers like Dr. Carol Dweck call a growth mindset.

How to Shape Your Destiny

Below, I share ten principles anyone can use to live a Shaping-Destiny lifestyle. Why a lifestyle? Because the way to change your destiny is to change your lifestyle.

-Choose to shape your destiny. It starts with a choice. You cannot go and get what you don’t want. Decide to take charge of your destiny today. Choose to take responsibility for your future and make things happen instead of having things happen to you. It’s a choice we must make.

-Develop a Shaping-Destiny mindset. It starts with mindset. How do you develop a shaping destiny mindset? By renewing your mind and heart. By changing the way you think and what you believe. You are what you are today because of what you believe and the way you think. Your actions naturally flow out of your thoughts and beliefs. You must change your mindset and your heart. You have to develop a shaping-destiny mindset.

-Become a better person. Build your life on the firm foundation of character. At the heart of any good character is a deep unbridled love for people.

-Be a growing person. Learn how to grow & rest. Prepare yourself from the inside-out for success. Success comes to those who have prepared themselves for it. It doesn’t happen randomly.

-Have a strategy that works. A strategy involves both envisioning and execution. A good strategy helps you to live a vision and mission driven life. It also helps you prioritize.

-Be mission-driven and vision-focused. A good way to develop a life mission and vision is to “begin with the end in mind”. Mission and vision are the first steps of any successful strategy. As we know, strategy is all about choosing. A strong mission and vision help to keep us focused. And focus is a key to success.

Prioritize! Prioritize! Prioritize! Major on the majors & minor on the minors. Put first things first. A good strategy helps you prioritize. By majoring in the majors and minoring in the minor, we learn to manage our focused mission and vision to success.

-Raise Partners. Learn to work with others as a team because nothing of importance can be achieved alone. Two of the best ways to work with others are win/win negotiation and empathic communication.

-Seek to understand people before trying to help them. Seek first to understand, then to be understood. Diagnose before you prescribe. Speak the truth in love. Don’t be so eager to solve people’s problems without taking the time to know them deeply.

-Practice Win/Win Negotiation. Care also for the interest of others and seek synergy. Serve others.