One Way You Can Change People’s Behavior

In general, changing another person’s behavior is something that we cannot control. Only they can choose to change their behavior. In fact, many times, people who are exhibiting a negative behavior might feel helpless. If you were to ask them, they don’t...

Learning Social Skills

Recently, while at work and observing the interaction between people, I began to think that medicine is a lot about social skills. Of course competence in diagnosing and treating disease is crucial. Most people who are board certified in their specialties have the...

Why I work harder to please people now

When I was younger, just a few years ago, I used to be brash and “tell it like it is”. All I cared about was the truth as I saw it. I didn’t care about the impact my words would have on the listener. If you felt bad about it, too bad. Go deal with...

The Power of Love

There is no weapon more powerful than love. There is no force more omnipotent than love. With love, a sheep can calm the wrath of a lion. Love has the power to break every chain. The greatest and the most powerful show their strength through love. They flex their...

The Curse of Wisdom

A lot of people desire to be wise and discerning. Many of us want to have the kind of wisdom that enables us to see things ahead of our time; to discern what will happen when everybody else cannot yet see it. No doubt, that is a very good gift. However, it comes with...

Posttraumatic Growth

We know all about posttraumatic stress disorder. We hear about it often. The pain is deep, far-reaching, life-altering, and for some people, lasts a long time. Bad things are guaranteed to happen, even to good people. What do you do after a catastrophic event hits...

Everybody has an Agenda

It’s the presidential election year here in the U.S. We are only a couple of months away from election day. If you turn on your TV to find the news, you will most likely get one of three kinds of agendas. Liberal agenda – From CNN, MSNBC, etc. Conservative...

It’s difficult, but I can do it

Recently, I had a very moving encounter with a patient with acute respiratory distress secondary to COPD exacerbation. My intern (let’s call her Patricia), had just told me James’ history (not his real name), physical exams, labs, imaging, and assessment...

Can you have more than one calling for your life?

This is a very common question that I have gotten many times. And the simple answer to that is, YES. But the answer requires explanation. As children, we are asked, “What do you want to do when you grow up?” And almost always, the adults asking this...

Overlooking People’s Mistakes Works in Your Favor

“A wise man restrains his anger and overlooks insults. This is to his credit.” Ancient Middle Eastern Proverb A lot of people don’t know this, but overlooking people’s mistakes works in our favor. When someone makes a mistake, the natural...

Three Great Public Speaking Tips

I recently listened to a talk by Bo Easton in which he gives three tips for public speaking. It resonated with me because I have often talked about the same three things, and they have guided my own public speaking journey. Here they are: 1)Your Personal Story is the...

Why You Shoudn’t pay attention to every word people say

“Do not pay attention to every word people say, or you may hear your servant cursing you—for you know in your heart that many times you yourself have cursed others.” King Solomon, ancient King of Israel. Lately, this quote has had a huge impact on me. I...

Leaders give first. And go first.

“Not that I desire your gifts; what I desire is that more be credited to your account.” Paul of Tarsus Leaders go first, give first, and give sacrificially. Recently, I was coaching Danielle, a brave young woman who works as program coordinator for Shaping...

Generosity: How Champions are Made

“Give, and you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full—pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, running over, and poured into your lap. The amount you give will determine the amount you get back” The Nazarene This week, Simone Biles...

Love is both Passion and Skill

Love is both passion and skill. It’s both heart and head. If you make it all heart and emotion, it will become a delusion. If you make it all head and skill, it becomes impersonal and ineffective. If you love unwisely, you can kill yourself or be injured in...

Helping People Vs. Helping People Help Themselves

Recently, a group meeting on my job was interrupted by a friendly, relaxed chat. Debra commented positively on the care I was giving to one of our patients. As a teaching moment, she asked me what motivated me to go the extra mile. Without thinking much about it, I...
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